the fact that a girl being a feminist is a turn off to a lot of guys is just further proof that sexism exists they’re literally saying they don’t want a girl who requires respect because that’s just no fun
— Mahmood Mamdani
Sometimes running a feminist quidditch Facebook group produces exactly the same feelings as a mother trying to go grocery shopping with multiple young children–
"Mommy will buy you a Hershey’s bar if you don’t destroy anything in the store, OK?"
"THE GROUP MOD WILL GIVE YOU ALL $5 TO JUST SHUT UP FOR 20 MINUTES."
today a dude slammed my finger on accident because he was closing a metal drawer i had my fingers in and i was on drive through and i literally screamed into the headset and the lady just kept ordering her drink as i was trying to hush down three different LOUD MEN SAYING “OH MY GOD WHAT DID HE DO TO YOUR HAND”
she just kept going
i screamed into a headset and she just kept going
working in customer service
One time I passed out at the counter in a McAlister’s because I’d gotten too hot, and still had yet to accept you cannot “tough out” a fainting spell. When I came to, I looked up from the ground, and saw a group of old ladies had stepped over my lifeless body to place their order. Thanks.
We live in a society that’s sexist in ways it doesn’t understand. One of the consequences is that men are extremely sensitive to being criticized by women. I think it threatens them in a very primal way, and male privilege makes them feel free to lash out.
This is why women are socialized to carefully dance around these issues, disagreeing with men in an extremely gentle manner. Not because women are nicer creatures than men. But because our very survival can depend on it."
The whole article sadly hits very close to home.